Dater Interference

We’ve all been there, a friend or family member thinks you really should meet such-n-such! You guys would be great together! Or they nag you about being single. Or worse yet, they pick on the person you are dating because they don’t like them!

Well, I say it’s your life, do what you want. And remember that they probably just want what they think is best for you, even if they’re way off base and becoming annoying!

So, what would I do if someone wants to set me up? First, I take a good look at who is making the suggestion and why and what choices they’ve made. If I’m OK with the suggester, I’ll probably just go out on the date. However, if I’m at all skeptical, I usually try and include the suggester in the first meeting, or if that doesn’t work out, have friends with me. There’s safety and comfort in numbers and if it really does work out, you can tell the tag-a-longs to take a hike!

As for naggers, I tell them to get their own life cause I’m living mine!

And the bitchers, well, that’s a tougher one. I’ve never had to deal with it in my love life (what love life) but I have sort-of been the bitch before. I just suggest you tell the bitch to mind their own business. And if you do find yourself the bitch, try and remember that bitching is not a form of support.

Sabina,
Your brother issues are really, really hard ones. I don’t usually suggest dating friends of friends or family unless you’ve really got to know them first. It’s hard enough dealing with a total strangers feelings and needs without having to worry about upsetting someone you actually care about! So, my advice is tell the guy straight up that your brother’s going to broadside him. And I would definitely tell your brother to mind his own business.

Although, I have to say I’m really kind of surprised your brothers friends even consider dating you. That’s like Man Rule #1, don’t date my sisters without permission. Followed closely by, Man Rule #2, I know how you treat women, don’t date anyone related to me.

Well, guess that’s enough dating advice from the Serially Single Guy.

Still single, and still not listening to my own advice,
Scott